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How to Get Unstuck and Achieve Your Goals

Updated: Jun 3


 

Article Summary

In this article, I share some tough love and also address a common issue many of us face: feeling stuck due to consuming too much information, trying to do too much, or not being honest with ourselves. Drawing inspiration from a listener's candid email, I offer practical advice on identifying barriers, amplifying strengths, and making tangible progress. If you're struggling to start a project or move forward with your goals, this episode is for you. Learn how to focus on what truly matters, commit to actionable steps, and find the accountability you need to succeed. And above all, this episode will help you find the confidence in yourself that is likely keeping you from making progress right now.


Takeaways

  • Identify the true barriers that are holding you back, such as a perceived lack of resources, consuming too much free content without taking action, having too many ideas and feeling overwhelmed, and a lack of confidence.

  • Create an action plan by identifying one area of focus, sacrificing and committing to the effort, scheduling dedicated time, and finding accountability.

  • Believe in yourself and follow through on your commitments to build confidence and make progress towards your goals.


**This was also a podcast episode (episode #244). If you'd like to listen to this conversation, use the link below.



Ep. 244: 4 Steps To Take When Your Progress Is Sloth-like Slow


 

I received an email recently and I'm so thankful for the honesty because I can share words that I know others feel. It's a common trap that we can all fall into and it's getting stuck because we are consuming too much information, trying to do too much or feel like we should be doing more and aren't being honest with ourselves.


I'll share some of her specific words but I'm also pulling from many other conversations too. It's not just this one person's experience, it can and does happen to all of us if we aren't careful. So if you're feeling stuck, I want you to challenge yourself to not get defensive with this episode but rather take it in and see if this is the culprit that's stopping your progress.


Listener's Email


"I wish I could start the podcast, the online course, the book, or most especially the coaching business  - any of the things I really want to do. But I can't find my way into those dream jobs - or even finish the dang website... so I'm keeping the faith that things will come into play. I work on them daily, but progress is sloth-like."


"You have amazing guests and I've been able to follow many of them and get free content, so that's been huge...Mostly I keep coming back for inspiration and ideas...But I can only implement so much with a zero budget and little time."


Barriers & Amplifiers To Help You Achieve Your Goals


Barrier She Identified: "zero budget and little time"


Barriers I Recognize: Perceived lack of resources (time and finances); Consuming a lot of free content (feeling like she should do more); Many ideas she wants to pursue (paralyzed to actually take action); Lack of confidence (not following through)


Amplifier I Recognize: Ability to work towards her goal daily (time)



Get Unstuck Action Plan To Achieve Goals


  1. Get Honest With Yourself

  2. Identify One Focus

  3. Identify What You Have To Sacrifice & Commit

  4. Schedule Dedicated Time & Metrics To Track

  5. Find Accountability


Sloth climbing in a tree


1. Get Honest With Yourself


Slow down long enough to ask yourself: Does this actually matter to me? Do I really want to pursue this? What time do I actually have? Where am I wasting time in my day?


In our example she is focused on all things that are related to starting and growing a business (podcast, course, website, etc.). So she would need to ask:


  • Does starting and growing a business really matter to me?

  • Do I really want to pursue these things and spend time, energy, money on these activities?

  • What time do I actually have to dedicate to starting and growing a business?

  • Where am I wasting time in my day currently that I can use for starting and growing a business?


The more honest you are with yourself, the more successful you're going to feel. And even when the progress is sloth-like, you'll be pursuing something you care about and you'll be excited for any progress you see. You'll also likely see more progress because you're focused.


2. Identify One Focus


Make a list of all the things you want to accomplish, don't hold back. Be creative, think big, go for it. Then look ahead at your calendar at the next 90 days (are you traveling, do you have a packed schedule, do you have free time, etc.).

By doing this you get an accurate look at how much time you actually have to dedicate to working towards something. Then knowing that it's impossible to do it all at the same time, pick a single focus. If you finish before 90 days is up, great! If it takes longer than 90 days, that's fine too.


In our example, she wants to do a lot of things:


"I wish I could start the podcast, the online course, the book, or most especially the coaching business  - any of the things I really want to do. But I can't find my way into those dream jobs - or even finish the dang website"


This list is paralyzing her and feeding into the lack of confidence in herself. She sees a list of things she hasn't done and it hinders her from moving forward. But if she will focus on one thing and make progress she can tackle the whole list eventually...if she stills wants it all.


So she needs to take that list and prioritize the one thing that she could do in the next 90 days. My suggestion for her is to identify what problem she wants to help solve because this is the core to all successful businesses. If she starts the podcast, creates the course or finishes her website before knowing what problem she wants to help solve, she will have to redo it/pivot later anyway.


You don't have to know all the details but if you can fall in love with a problem you want to help solve, you will start to ask all the right questions to help you figure it out. - Amanda McKinney


3. Identify What You Have To Sacrifice & Commit


Most people set goals and say they want things but they fall short when it comes to the effort required. This is the time to get clear on what effort will be required for you to actually make progress towards your goal.


In our example, she's going to have to give up a few things in order to move forward. Whether or not this is possible for her in this season of her life I don't know but remember, the only right answer is the honest one. She will need to ask herself:


  • Am I willing to acknowledge that I consume too much free content and don't take action?

  • Am I willing to stop consuming content and instead take action on one strategy?

  • Am I willing to dedicate a specific amount of time each week to a single focus?

  • Am I willing to believe in myself and that I'm capable of taking action even when I don't feel confident?

  • Am I willing to take ownership of my actions and lack thereof no matter what the results are as I work towards this goal?


If the answer is no to any of these questions, the goal isn't the right one for this specific time. Simply go back and choose another focus or admit that starting and growing a business isn't something that can be top priority in this season of life.


But if the answer is yes, it doesn't mean it will be easy but it does mean you've set the right goal and will see progress if you stay committed.


4. Schedule Dedicated Time & Metrics To Track


Now that you know what you truly care about, you're committed and you know your single focus for the next 90 days, identify when you will work towards this goal and what metric you will track each week. By doing this you'll help yourself see progress weekly which helps you stay motivated and adjust as needed when things aren't working.


In our example, let's say that for the next 90 days she wants to get clear on what business she wants to create and she wants to dedicate 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week to her business planning. By the end of 90 days she will have a solid focus for her business and will finally finish her website.


If you have a schedule that's not typical or not the same each week that's not an excuse not to make progress. If you're truly committed to this goal you'll figure it out. Simply say "I will dedicate 2 hours a week to X" and make it happen no matter what. Some weeks it will be easy and sometimes you'll miss the mark but even if you get 1 hour in, that's progress.


Following through is how you will feel confident because you'll be holding a commitment to yourself. - Amanda McKinney


You follow through on your word to others all the time when you show up on time for lunch (even on a crazy day) or you stay up late to get that project done even when you're tired. You have to do this for yourself too and the only way to do it is by action. When you prove this to yourself, you will feel confident in any goal!


5. Find Accountability


This is key - if you know that this is going to be very hard to stay committed to by yourself, don't let that stop you. Find someone to help hold you accountable. You can find a friend, a peer, a biz bestie, a coach, a mentor, etc.


In our example, she mentions not having financial resources so if she needs someone to hold her accountable she'll need to find someone who is willing to do this for free. A friend, a peer, etc.


However, I would also ask her to reflect on how long she has tried to do this alone and it hasn't worked. If the pain of not making a change is greater than the financial pain of finding accountability that's paid, I'd suggest paying for it. It's incredible how much more you'll get done when you invest your money. Don't put yourself in a bad financial spot but if you know you need it, find it at the price you can make work and commit with your time and finances because you will see the difference.


Take Away Message / Action


If you're stuck, it's time to get honest with yourself about what you want, the capacity you have and the commitment you have to make it work. The more honest you are the more results you'll see in a way that feels successful for you.


Don't let any "shoulds" get in the way of this process. Be honest about what you want and then go after it, unapologetically. Use the resources you have, ask for support if you need it and start making progress instead of excuses. You've got this! I believe in you in even when you don't believe in yourself.


Until next time give yourself permission to follow through on your word to yourself and grace along the way. I'll talk to you soon.



Other Resources:



Ep. 244: 4 Steps To Take When Your Progress Is Sloth-like Slow

"Following through is how you will feel confident because you'll be holding a commitment to yourself."


- Amanda McKinney











 

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