Feeling frantic or scattered lately?
If so, you’re not alone in the slightest. I’ve heard this so much lately that I went live on Instagram about this topic and it was such a hit I wanted to share it here, too.
I ask questions to help you move through the frantic or scattered feeling and I’m so grateful you’re here so you can do this. There’s light at the end of the frantic tunnel, my friend.
Okay, let’s dig in so you can move through that frantic feeling!
**This was also a podcast episode (episode #126). Use the player below if you'd prefer to listen to this message.
Follow these steps whenever you feel frantic
If you're feeling frantic, scattered, or overwhelmed because you haven't reached the goals you want to reach, know that you're not alone. Then try following these steps.
1. Take a moment!
If you're feeling scattered, the very first thing to do is to pause and take a step back. Breathe. Think about how you would help a friend through that feeling. You would most likely show them lots of compassion. Then perhaps you would ask them to slow down and be okay with small baby steps.
2. Ask yourself why you might be feeling this way.
Is it because you don’t have a plan and you like to have a plan? Or is it because you have a plan but you’re not taking action?
If it's because you need a plan, then ask yourself: What do you need a plan for specifically? Don't make this too big. For example, if you want a plan for growing your yoga business, that's a big plan! Get more specific. What does growth look like for you? Make it a 90-day goal, not a yearly goal.
If it's because you need to take action, then listen to podcast episode 122: Tips for Self-Sabotage As a Business Owner. If you're great at planning but you're not implementing your plan, then this is where accountability comes into play. Once you recognize you're not implementing, you can ask yourself what's stopping yourself from making it happen. What do you need to put into place in order to get the plan implemented? Sometimes this involves other people, sometimes this can involve tracking, or something else altogether.
3. Give yourself grace.
If you feel like you haven't gotten enough done, please give yourself plenty of grace. I guarantee that if you make a list of everything you've done this year, you'll most likely see that you've done amazing things. But maybe you set a goal that was unrealistic at this time.
It's great to set big goals and try to achieve those goals, but sometimes life throws you things that you can't expect. Life throws us curveballs, so we have to reassess our goals and move through it.
I hear this question lot: "Amanda, am I doing enough?" Yes, you're doing enough. But we want to make sure that you're doing enough of the right things. I don't know about you, but I can fill my day with things to be busy with. But if those things don't get me closer to achieving my goal, then is it helpful? No, it's not helpful. Staying busy is different from taking steps toward your goal.
Often times we will set a goal and say "this is what I want," but if we took an inventory of our actions, then we would see that our actions aren't aligned with our goal. In this case, we have to reassess the goal.
You're not going to reach your goal if you don't take the actions that lead to the goal.
Your next step
Well, did you find that helpful? I sure hope you did because I think any reminder we can have to speak to ourselves in a nicer way is a good reminder.
Your next step is to talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend. Identify if you (1) need a plan or (2) need to take action.
Until next time, give yourself permission to move through the frantic feeling and grace along the way.
"It's okay. You don't have to solve all of your problems today. What you need to do is take one tiny step forward." - Amanda McKinney